Can healing take place?

Can healing take place?
by Fe Marina Siacon

A helpful friend? To what category? Can a friend heal our wounds? Can they be trusted? In any relationship, either between a doctor and patient or among friends the value of trust must prevail. “Any relationship in fact, has to be anchored in trust if it were to prosper,” says Doc Bing. Yes, healing is anchored with trust, but once you do something which is contrary to trust, trust is lost. On the other hand once you respect one’s person or property, then you will be trusted. The value of respect here refers to not touching anything which does not belong to your jurisdiction or to you. These two values are interrelated. Some friends are willing to do extra efforts to help. Some are very much willing to help however it would be wise thing first to wait for the right moment. That person might get hurt because he might think you are intervening in his life, respect him as a person for this help might be mistakenly taken as an insult to his being.
The intention might be good. But it could have been in proper perspective and in the right time with respect. The act done without the presence or confirmation of somebody is act done in the wrong place and in the wrong time by the wrong person. Trust would be lost and healing or forgiving would be far beyond reach. The wound will take time to heal but the scar remains, however scarred people are beautiful.

If ever I am doing my work I do it in the best of what I can do, with great effort, and responsibly conscious of the time quality that I spent with it. Time as in number of seconds, minutes, or hours spent as in legal eight hours? No, it’s not. It’s the value of time taken seriously and responsibly. I know time is precious. I can be in the office eight hours a day, but if I spend most of it in a nonsense tete-a-tete, that’s another point. So whatever things I do, (in the office or at home) I do it with seriousness and I trust no one will ever touch it. I feel confident.

A friend is a privilege. We have to appreciate them with respect. In the Church, Jesus provides us with many friends with faith. Brothers and sisters ready to assist and serve us in time of need. Gets involve in the barangay or small community and in the local church. Jesus has so many friends also. Even those who hurt him, He still considered them a friend, because he said, “love your enemy”. Of course, humanly speaking, it is hard to love someone whom you have lost confidence with. That is why I still would like to instill in one’s heart the value of respect. With this in our hearts we will be able to nurture our network of friends with trust, with confidence, with faith and share these values with one another. Once all these are in one, love springs out.
Perhaps then healing will take place though it may take some time.